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Pretty Damsel
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« on: January 24, 2011, 08:47:01 AM »

I hate this feeling. Feeling guilty of all the things i have done to my husband. I have this officemate and my seatmate. It all started when he starting to bully and became sweet to me. Though he already know that I have already a family of my own. He ask me to try having a secret relationship with him. Since I am longing for my husband's company I just try it. However, now I have feeling so jealous with his Girlfriend and i think I am falling in love. I cant take it anymore,
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« Reply #1 on: February 11, 2011, 10:53:28 PM »

Wha---?

Did you already commit infidelity, or are you still thinking about it yet?

For me, it's not worth it. He already has a gf and he won't take you seriously. He's just maybe in it for the thrill--the challenge of seducing a married woman. If you fall into his trap, then no only you will lose big time, but you'll definitely be hurt.

See, even now you're already getting jealous of his gf. In your side, you've got so much to lose--your family, your shame, your reputation, even your career can be affected since you're colleagues.

It's too complicated, but I know how you feel.

Check out this link as an eye opener and as your wake up call: that officemate of yours, may be thinking the same thing as this guy here

For me he's like an a**hole. Just want to use married women for their comforts and pleasures. Think about it and not just yourself alone. Do you really want to risk yourself for this? Read on and wake up.

http://www.divaasia.com/article/12375

Excerpts from the link:

""The first time we had s*x, she felt guilty. After all, she had been married for six years.

"She indulged in the affair because her husband took her for granted and was not paying any attention to her," says Rob.

"For me, it is more physical than emotional. There is no danger of me falling in love with her.

"She is married. What she does not get from her husband, she gets from me," he says.

Does he feel guilty?

"No, I don't. Her husband is not my friend. If I don't have an affair with her, someone else will.
"Even if her husband finds out and he leaves her, I will not marry her because this was only supposed to be a fun relationship. It's like the saying, 'willing seller, willing buyer'.

"She did, after all, choose to get into this relationship so she knew the risk involved."

Rob prefers a relationship with a married woman because: " There are no wedding bells, she won't tell and she won't swell.


See? even now you;re already falling. Tsk tsk tsk.

I hope this is not too late for a reply
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« Reply #2 on: February 12, 2011, 06:11:04 PM »

Thanks a lot jmiguelx44 for this.

Sad to say, we already had s*x, now i felt more guilty. It is fun, exciting and challenging.
However, we already decided to end our affair now. But the stress was we were seatmates so there was really a huge gap talking to each other.

I felt used and abused!

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« Reply #3 on: February 18, 2011, 01:14:00 PM »

Thanks a lot jmiguelx44 for this.

Sad to say, we already had s*x, now i felt more guilty. It is fun, exciting and challenging.
However, we already decided to end our affair now. But the stress was we were seatmates so there was really a huge gap talking to each other.

I felt used and abused!



Oh...so it was too late for a reply indeed.

Woah! You're even seatmates with him!  Shocked I wonder how you go along with your work now, especially with all the post-sexual tension you had there.

Actually, I read somewhere that most women who had undergone a breakup--or on the verge of break up, resort to a hookup--BAD IDEA.

Since women are vulnerable at this time, men are feeding on this vulnerability and neediness of women so all the more making you easy targets.

YOu may want to salvage your ego, your pride from the bad breakup, but you're making it even worse by jumping rushing to another (pseudo) relationship, thinking it's what you need, but sadly, it's not.

I feel bad for you. But hope you'll get through this.

Lesson learned
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« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2011, 04:59:53 AM »

Yeah felt bad...but lesson learned.. i stop talking about our relationship whenever we are in the office...but he keeps on teasing me and seducing me...
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« Reply #5 on: February 22, 2011, 12:15:33 PM »

Yeah felt bad...but lesson learned.. i stop talking about our relationship whenever we are in the office...but he keeps on teasing me and seducing me...

Sounds like the jerk is still wanting more...  Lips Sealed

It depends on you if you succumb to that dark pit again.

Once is enough, two is too much, three can get you into trouble.
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« Reply #6 on: February 27, 2011, 08:48:49 AM »

and the worst of all is he keeps on inventing things to cover his mistakes. Well i am thankful were on different work shifts right now so there is no any other way for us to communicate unless it is work related
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« Reply #7 on: March 10, 2011, 08:32:09 AM »

and the worst of all is he keeps on inventing things to cover his mistakes. Well i am thankful were on different work shifts right now so there is no any other way for us to communicate unless it is work related


Hmmmm...Pretty Damsel,

Can I ask where do you work? My guess is that you work on a call center, right?
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« Reply #8 on: March 13, 2011, 02:09:44 AM »

Yeah, I am working on a call center. Even if were on different shifts, he keeps on teasing me.. i even moved to other lockers since were sharing in seats and lockers. just to keep away from him...but still he texts me from time to time.
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« Reply #9 on: March 13, 2011, 03:32:18 AM »

Yeah, I am working on a call center. Even if were on different shifts, he keeps on teasing me.. i even moved to other lockers since were sharing in seats and lockers. just to keep away from him...but still he texts me from time to time.

I heard and read some call center stories like this and it's quite pretty common--you know, colleagues sleeping with one another even though they're not a couple, coz perhaps given the working conditions--night shifts (with sleeping quarters) plus a highly stressful job especially with irate callers, evaluation performance, graveyard shifts, etc.

my take on this is to simply ignore his texts, buy another sim card if you can (so that he won't contact you again--maybe he's the one who feels clingy after s*x, ha!) then announce to your friends your new number.
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