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Pretty Damsel
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« on: November 23, 2010, 08:23:17 AM »

I am married for 3 years and my husband is working abroad. I have 2 ex boyfriend that i still have communication. They know that i am married now and my husband is working abroad. I am tempted to accept their invitations to watch movie or have dinner or lunch. I know it is not good though, i just want to try for friendly purpose. Please guide me.
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« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2010, 09:22:57 PM »

You are the only person that can make that decision Pretty Damsel.

What are you hoping to achieve by having movie and lunch with your ex boyfriends? They are ex boyfriends for a reason.

Why not go out with other friends for movies and lunch if it really is only as friends
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« Reply #2 on: November 29, 2010, 08:03:06 AM »

Thanks Mind Recipes for having an ample time to read my predicament. I am tempted, in a way that i can make a slap on my husband's face. I don't know if he is telling the truth that he never dates or have an affair abroad. Well in fact, i have seen some of their pictures in facebook.
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« Reply #3 on: December 15, 2010, 12:04:08 PM »

Hi, not to be overly cynical, but I think you've discovered an almost universal issue in marriage:

Almost all women just yearn to be loved by their husbands,
Almost all men just yearn to be respected & admired by their wives.

I highly recommend the book "Love & Respect" from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
http://loveandrespect.com/

Don't fall for the "friendly" advances from the ex-boyfriends!  That's a one-way ticket to pain & heartbreak -- if you go through that door, there's no turning back.

Lou...
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« Reply #4 on: December 31, 2010, 04:09:01 PM »

I agree with Lou_1973 ... I think they would use you ... taking advantage of a lady in a vulnerable position ... vulnerable because you are hurting. This is about your inner hurts..... maybe abandonment, fear of betrayal, lack of self confidence or low self esteem .... .

Is there any way you can talk to your partner about your feelings? If not physically or by phone/skype etc, then maybe you could do it by imagining him with you in a quiet place where you can both talk about this (in your imagination). say what you need to say and 'listen' to his replies..... and just keep going with this until you find inner peace.

I also agree with the idea of going out with some 'safer' friends if you need to talk/relax etc
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« Reply #5 on: March 19, 2011, 06:21:14 AM »

If you see your ex boyfriends as simply well wishers, there is no wrong in it but if it is the other way, the you need to stop it.
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