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1  Chit Chat / The Coffee Shop / Re: if you could look like someone else... on: January 19, 2011, 12:35:52 PM
Haha yes, a pound a day, I know some people may think that's too quick, but rest assured it's under the watchful eye of my personal wellbeing coach.  (Without taking any strange & dubious supplements!  Only diet & exercise.)

Too often we're limiting ourselves by what we believe to be realistic.
Having a coach who believes in us, can get us to break through that barrier of "realistic-ness".
So when you can't believe in yourself, you only have to believe in the coach's belief in you.

I used to hide behind the excuse (false belief) that all good looking people must be in their 20's, and it's impossible for anybody older than 29 to actually look good.  I used to believe when you hit 30 and fall into the trap of kids, gardening & debt, then adding weight & wrinkles is just how it's supposed to be.

Until I learned that Jason Statham is only a few months older than I am -- all of a sudden those limiting beliefs simply evaporated.

The same goes for making money, or any other area of life, actually.
It's all limited by what we believe is possible for ourselves.

2  Chit Chat / The Coffee Shop / Re: if you could look like someone else... on: January 18, 2011, 03:41:40 PM
Oooh I wanna have a body like Jason Statham !!!

In fact I realised last month that we're almost the same age, so I can't use age as an excuse NOT to look like him.
Which led me to my new year's resolution to get into shape for once and for all,
which inspired me to shed 15 pounds in the last 15 days, whoop-whoop!!!

3  Self Improvement / New Technology / Re: Headphones on: January 18, 2011, 03:35:17 PM
Hi JP,

I've heard about SleepPhones but I always use mini-speakers which I just plug into my MP3 player at night -- mine's called "Shox", they're rechargeable through any USB port

I use it especially for SleepProgramming
and I get fantastic results, especially with the "Hyper Fast Thinking" sleep program!

Did you ask your original question because of something similar as SleepProgramming,
or just to fall asleep with music?


4  General / Post your Problem! / Re: How Materialistic Are You? What Makes You Happy? Stuff, People, Animals... on: January 11, 2011, 01:32:51 PM
Haha, this discussion reminds me of Karl Moore's "The 18 Rules of Happiness", where he says:

We all dream of fast cars, expensive yachts and magnificent
showcase homes.

But do these things really make us happy?

Research says – well, yes, actually. Let’s be honest. Anyone
that says they’re happy while stone broke is probably lying.

Having a little money behind you is always a great idea.

Money makes things happen.

But even so, studies have shown that the happiness “created”
by material goods is only ever temporary.

Within a few months, the dog hairs have permanently settled
into the back seat of your once-new Mercedes – and
annoying neighbours have moved next door to your beach
home in Santa Monica.

The initial rush these material pleasures once brought soon

So, how do you get a lasting buzz from your money?

Registered users on my site can get their complimentary copy of Karl Moore's book here:


5  General / Post your Problem! / Re: What's the best advice ever given to you? on: December 15, 2010, 12:09:50 PM
My mentor once asked me: "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?"
Too many times we're so focused on proving ourselves right & proving the other person wrong,
that we destroy our own peace & happiness in the process.

6  Self Improvement / New Technology / Re: Yearning for Husband's Love on: December 15, 2010, 12:04:08 PM
Hi, not to be overly cynical, but I think you've discovered an almost universal issue in marriage:

Almost all women just yearn to be loved by their husbands,
Almost all men just yearn to be respected & admired by their wives.

I highly recommend the book "Love & Respect" from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Don't fall for the "friendly" advances from the ex-boyfriends!  That's a one-way ticket to pain & heartbreak -- if you go through that door, there's no turning back.

7  Self Improvement / Health & Wellbeing / Re: Could you share some time management techniques please? on: December 15, 2010, 11:27:32 AM
Hi Alliday & everyone,

I'm definitely not a morning person, so that rules out getting up earlier :-)

Here's what I do, and since I've started doing these things, I've never had a day where I wished that the day was even just 1 hour longer:

(1) I know this will sound crazy, until you try it:
--- Cut out TV entirely.
--- Rent/buy my favourite TV shows (I love CSI!) on DVD, then watch them at 20%-40% faster than normal speed.  I use "VLC Media Player" for this (
--- You'd be surprised at how quickly your brain adapts to the faster playback speed, after the first 5-10 minutes, you're completely adapted and you don't miss a single word, facial expression or anything. 
--- The human mind can process like 4 billlion bits of sensory information a second anyway, so why not revv it up a bit, eh?
--- Doing this allows you to watch a 2-hour movie in 1.5 hours, or a 60-minute TV episode in 40 minutes. 
--- A nice side-effect is that it speeds up your thinking process for many hours afterwards, too.

(2) Use audiobooks wherever possible
--- I listen to audiobooks while driving. 
--- A person mostly drives on autopilot, because the subconscious mind controls the body while the conscious mind remains idle. 
--- A 30-minute drive to work, and 30 minutes back in the evening, times Monday to Friday, gives you 5 hours of quality listening time per week, which would otherwise have been wasted. 
--- This allows me to go through a 5-hour audiobook per week - 52 books a year! 
--- I get my audiobooks from and  It's better to pay for good audiobooks, read by professional voice artists and recorded in professional recording studios, rather than getting cheap freebies by some guy behind his home computer.

(3) Invest some time in doing a speed reading course
--- I've doubled my own reading speed (from an embarrassing 350 wpm up to 700 wpm) using this course: from the WCCL Network
--- If you take an hour or two to do this course, you will regain those hours many times over -- how's that for a good return on investment?!

(4) Consider replacing all your personal development studies, books, etc. with Bob Proctor's "Six Minutes to Success"
--- Bob has been in the personal development business for 49 years now, and he distills the very essence of personal growth into a 1-2 minute video, and gives you a 4-5 minutes exercise, so in total it takes only 6 minutes of your time, Monday to Friday. 
--- He basically does all the research for you, so you really don't have to spend your time on any other personal development material. 
--- Follow these 3 links to find 3 free videos where he explains it himself
     (and he talks about time management -- "There is no time management.  Nobody can manage time.  You can only manage activities."):
--- Video1
--- Video2
--- Video3

(5) Always take a shower instead of a bath
--- Just the time it takes to fill the bath, and the time it takes to let the bath water run out, adds up to 2 hours per month!

I know this will help you -- don't just shrug it off as crazy, do it and experience the results for yourself!


8  General / Post your Problem! / Re: I panic when Im alone outside of my home on: December 14, 2010, 11:21:18 AM
Hi milligank,

I would definitely recommend NLP for your situation.

Personally I use Ultimate NLP for all kinds of situations (
but in your case I think The Ten Minute Cure is more targeted at precisely your situation:

(Both of these were developed by the highly acclaimed WCCL Network)

I'm sure it will help you



9  General / Post your Problem! / Re: Relationship Problem on: December 14, 2010, 09:23:57 AM
Hi Joe, when I read your story it was as if I was reading my own personal journal!  I was/am in eggzackly the same situation.

I find consolation in the fact that just about everyone who tries to break away from the old paradigms, will meet resistance from the people around them, and the resistance is the strongest from the people who are closest to us.

Personal development gets so much more complicated when there's other people involved.

I have a few suggestions (from my own experience):

* You & your wife have to find a new equilibrium in your relationship -- Agree to disagree, and find a point of balance where you can grow as you choose, and she can remain still as she chooses.  Since you're the one on the path to growth & development, you're in a position to take the lead in setting the new frequency that will exist between the two of you.  (She probably doesn't have the awareness to participate in this, so it becomes a one-sided exercise with you doing all the work, but it is possible -- I've done it.)

* Think of your wife and remember Dr. John Demartini's words that "No matter what you have done or not done, you are worthy of love."

* Think of yourself and remember Oscar Wilde's words that "Selfishness is not living the way you want to live.  Selfishness is asking others to live the way you want to live."

On this last point I would modify CoachRina's words a little bit:
Instead of saying "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you" (which would put yourself in a weaker position),
how about saying "I'm sorry (for projecting my unreaslitic expectations onto you), I forgive you (for not living up to them), thank you, I love you"

I hope this helps -- just know this: you're not alone in this journey, and you're not the only one who encounters this particular problem.

Send me a private message if you want to.



10  Chit Chat / The Coffee Shop / Re: Think And Grow Rich on: November 16, 2010, 08:41:08 AM
Hi Jak,

It means that we all have creativity inside of us -- if we don't our direct our creative energy willfully & purposefully then it takes over and expresses itself as a physical s#x drive, kind of as a last resort to create something from nothing. 

But we can deliberately redirect ("transmute") our creative energy towards something else -- there are other ways of creative expression, such as writing a book, producing a work of art, founding a charity, making music etc.

This is why people whom we label as "highly creative" usually have virtually no interest in s#x, e.g. hairdressers, fashion designers, artists, dancers -- because they express their creative energy in other ways, to such a degree that there's none of that energy left to fuel their s#x drive.

I think this is a good lesson for teenagers (and parents / teachers of teenagers) -- get their raging hormones under control by letting them express their creative energy in other ways.

Makes sense, yes?


11  Chit Chat / The Coffee Shop / Re: What do you do to keep yourself motivated? on: October 13, 2010, 02:35:02 PM
Hi all, I totally agree with Jules & with healthqueen -- I'm always asking myself "what's the best thing I can do RIGHT NOW to bring me closer to my goal?".  Of course that implies one must have a worthy goal to begin with.  Which means the motivation comes from the inside (because one keeps one's goal inside) -- internal motivation (a.k.a. inspiration) is so much stronger than external motivation. 

This is what James Allen meant when he wrote:
So you will be what you will to be,
Let failure find its false content
In that poor word 'environment',
But spirit scorns it, and is free.

It masters time, it conquers space,
It cows that boastful trickster, Chance,
And bids the tyrant Circumstance: 'Uncrown, and fill a servant's place!'

The human will, that force unseen,
The offspring of a Deathless Soul,
Can hew a way to any goal,
Though walls of granite intervene.

Be not impatient in delays
But wait as one who understands.
When spirit rises and commands
The gods are ready to obey.

Which reminds me -- when my inspiration is running low, I find it in poetry and art and music.  It's like fuel for the soul.


12  General / Post your Problem! / Re: Uncontrollable Thoughts (repost) on: September 08, 2010, 08:46:38 AM
Hi, I think you might find this very helpful:

It is one of the many programs developed by the WCCL Network -- I highly recommend their work, I've used many of their programs myself with great success, although I haven't needed the "Stop Unwanted Thoughts" one.


13  Self Improvement / Psychic Abilities & Phenomenon / Re: Has this ever happened to you? on: August 25, 2010, 02:59:19 PM
Hi Meder, yes I agree -- my life got so much better when one day I promised myself I will never ignore that little voice inside me, ever again.
14  General / What Works, What Doesn't / Re: There is something good in being IGNORANT on: August 25, 2010, 02:38:50 PM
Hi all,

If I understand it correctly "ignorance" is the opposite of "awareness" -- and I don't think there are enlightened leaders out there who preach ignorance over awareness.  

Maybe I'd go for something such as "selective ignorance" -- I deliberately stay ignorant about how corrupt the politicians of the world are, because even if I were aware of it, there's nothing I can do about it.  Actually there IS -- I can choose to stand up to them, so it's more correct to say "there's nothing that I'm willing to do about it".

But when it comes to my passions in life, I want to know everything there is to know -- I want to become the master at what I'm doing.  Then there's no room for ignorance.  The first step to mastering anything is to increase your awareness.  

Maybe those masters who preach ignorance have something to hide?  I wouldn't follow such a master...

Faith based on understanding is much more powerful than blind faith.  And understanding comes from awareness, not from ignorance.



15  Self Improvement / Psychic Abilities & Phenomenon / Re: Quantum Cookbook and Advanced Cosmic Ordering on: August 25, 2010, 02:23:16 PM
PS: I see that both Quantum Cookbook (  and  Advanced Cosmic Ordering (  give a money back guarantee.

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